Fifteenth Sunday of Ordinary Time

This week’s Gospel reading is quite long. 23 verses is a lot to work with, especially when it includes one of the rare moments when Jesus explains more fully a parable. In this week’s video, I pulled the lens back some from solely the Gospel and took some cues from the Old Testament and Responsorial Psalm for guidance. I think it turned out really well! I also have learned that my headphones don’t actually talk to my camera app – fun fact! Good to know, because now that I know why the audio quality of my videos isn’t great. Not so good to know because now I’m discerning whether to invest in an actual microphone or not. We shall see. If you have an opinion on audio quality, I’m all ears (pun intended).

For this written reflection, I was drawn to the verses of Isaiah that Jesus quotes in the Gospel reading:

You shall indeed hear but not understand,

you shall indeed look but never see.

Gross is the heart of this people,

They will hardly hear with their ears,

they have closed their eyes,

lest they see with their eyes

and hear with their ears

and understand with their hearts and be converted,

and I heal them.

Matthew 13:14-15 – quoting Isaiah 6:9-10

These are hard words to hear, but we must hear them. The imagery is so vivid. When I read the passage the first time, it reminded me of my kids when they were little and how they played hide-and-seek. They would cover their eyes and with all the certainty in the world, were convinced I couldn’t see them because they couldn’t see me. As adults, we see the absurdity of the action and we chuckle at the sweet innocence of a child at play.

Too often, we do this same thing as adults. As we settle into our house, I’m already doing this.

“If I just don’t look in that corner, I won’t have to think about the boxes that still need to be gone through.”

“If I don’t read that email, I won’t have to worry about whether or not we have time for another activity.”

“I’ll just buy another bottle of ranch, if I look through the pantry to see if there’s another one I’ll find all sorts of things we didn’t actually need to move or save but did anyway because I didn’t take the time to properly sort through them before we left.”

In the short term, so often it’s easier to close our eyes, cover our ears, and go about our business. Until we run into a wall of course. I’ll end up re-boxing boxes that should have been sorted next summer, packing things we definitely don’t need or want. We will miss out on opportunities because I didn’t take the time to sort through my email properly and update it with new organizations in our new city. I’ll end up with 4 “back up” bottles of ranch (don’t worry, my girls will work through it in no time) but is that really being the best steward of our finances?

This behavior can extend to all areas of life and believe me, it’s not a comfortable topic. We do this with politics, poverty, racism, extremism, hunger, violence, and so many other challenging topics. We think if we can’t see it, we don’t have to worry about it. If we don’t know about it, we don’t have to deal with it. I know I am guilty of this. I am speaking about it from a place of humility and, honestly, some shame. I know I could do better, open my eyes wider. It’s not that we are called to solve all of the world’s problems. But we should know what’s happening around us, we should be able to speak to what we know and be honest about what we don’t know. We should be able to pray for local, national and global issues that God places on our hearts.

An example. We want our children to know and be able to speak confidently about their heritage. Both mine and Ben’s families have been in the United States for quite some time. Ben’s family, however, has been in the US since before it was a country. He has ancestors that fought in the Revolutionary War, which is pretty cool to know. What is more challenging to know is that later in US history, his family also owned slaves and fought for the Confederacy which wanted to split the US into two countries.

We could chose not to share this with them. We could say, “Well, they will find out eventually if they want to.” Instead, we’ve chosen to share with them, as they show interest and maturity, the fullness of their family story. We want their eyes to be open. Slavery was and is a horrible thing that never should have happened. Yes, our family was part of that problem at that time in history. This does not mean we, or our kids are bad people. It does mean that today, everyone has a responsibility to uphold the rights and dignity of all people regardless of who they are, where they come from, or what their family has done in the past. We want them to embrace their family history, to be proud of the good things and to recognize the faults of the wrong things. Only with open eyes and open ears do we ensure the wrongs of history aren’t repeated.

Jesus tells us that we will bear good fruit if we hear His Word and obey. Jesus is Truth. We need to keep our eyes and ears open to what Jesus reveals to us. Little by little, Jesus will heal our brokenness. Through our commitment to Jesus’ Truth, the world will be transformed by love and forgiveness into the Kingdom of God.

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Fourteenth Sunday in Ordinary Time

I can’t remember if I’ve shared this here, but we are going to be a homeschooling family again in the fall. Actually, given the nature of homeschooling, we are already starting in small ways (shh, don’t tell my kids). As part of getting my brain back into full time “homeschooler” mode, I’ve been catching up with Sarah Mackenzie at the Read Aloud Revival. While originally a podcast about how enriching and life-giving reading aloud as a family can be, the podcast has grown and evolved to also include homeschool coaching and community. It is full of such good content, if you are a homeschooler or thinking about it I highly recommend Sarah’s stuff. Even if you aren’t, consider listening to an episode or two about the benefits and joys of reading aloud as a family. We love it!

In a recent episode (disclaimer, I am a premium member, meaning I pay a yearly fee for additional content, and the episode I’m referring to comes from that content so I cannot link it for you) Sarah talked about this week’s Gospel passage. She highlighted the section where Jesus says:

Come to me, all you who labor and are burdened,
and I will give you rest.

Matthew 11:28

In the context of homeschooling, it can be very hard to decide when the school year is officially “done.” As the parent and teacher, you get the freedom and burden of deciding when enough is enough. This is a tricky thing and it can be so easy to get lost in the doubts of, “Have we done enough?” What if the math book wasn’t finished? What if we never got to these planned projects? Have we worked hard enough to earn our summer break, our time of rest?

Sarah nips these ideas in the bud with the above passage. Homeschooling considerations aside and thinking about the larger context of our lives as God has given them to us, Jesus is saying that rest is a gift. He doesn’t say, “After you’ve completed your work you can rest.” He doesn’t even say, “In exchange for a certain amount of work, you can rest.” Quite the opposite. Jesus recognizes how labored people are as we struggle with daily life. Many of the struggles we have come as a result of sin in the world. We are a burdened people. In compassion, Jesus extends the gift of rest.

The thing is, the rest Jesus offers doesn’t necessarily line up with how the world views rest. Jesus’ rest doesn’t necessarily include sleeping until 11am, a round of golf, vegging in front of the tv, being about to watch a full YouTube video without being interrupted, or a vacation to a resort in the Bahamas.

When God created the world, He concluded by establishing the Sabbath. The Sabbath was to be a day of rest. It was a day of refraining from daily work so that the most important thing could be tended to – the Israelite people’s relationship with God. The Sabbath was set aside as a day of prayer and worship. Contrary to many sporting schedules, Sunday continues to be a day of rest, the day we come together as a community to worship and praise God. We find true rest for our souls when we rest in God. Jesus says this today. “Come to me…and I will give you rest.”

Here are a few examples of how to rest with God that I have found rejuvenating at various points in my life:

  • Taking a walk, even if it isn’t by yourself.
  • Adoration (even 5 minutes, even if you have a toddler with you)
  • Daily Mass
  • Listening to Christian or uplifting music, especially during a chore you don’t enjoy
  • Making food for others
  • Sharing with someone how God spoke to you today
  • Driving without the radio or a podcast on

To rest well with God doesn’t necessarily mean ceasing all activity. It is about how you approach that activity. Are you cooking/cleaning/working because of your desire to love God and the people He has placed in your life? Are you intentionally making time for quiet? God desires to be part of each moment of our day. Are you inviting Him into them so He can share your burden and lighten your load? Jesus promised He would if we unite ourselves to Him.

If you’d like to learn more about resting in God, check out this article by Fr. Billy Swan from Word on Fire Ministries. He references today’s passage, as well as others, while exploring how to rest well in God’s presence.

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Thirteenth Sunday of Ordinary Time

There’s a lot happening around here at the moment. If you watched this week’s YouTube video, you already know we are safely in Alabama. Thank you to all of you who prayed for our family on our journey. We appreciated it so much, especially when a certain Mississippi state trooper pulled us over because the registration on our cargo trailer may (or may not, you’ll have to take it up with my husband who insists because it was purchased in California there’s some kind of special rule out there) have been expired. When I explained we were military in the middle of moving cross country he let us go without any problems, but boy was my heart pounding for quite a few miles after.

I also can’t talk about this move without sharing a bit about how incredible my dad is. He had to navigate peers also being on vacation at the same time as our planned move and got everything all lined up. Then, about a week before we planned to leave we found out that if we didn’t want all of our household goods to end up in storage we would need to move up our timeline by 4 days. We would have already been in Alabama by the time his flight got into Wichita. We called immediately and told him we were so sorry for all the work he had to do to make the first plan work, how sorry we were to be changing things last minute, etc. He didn’t even flinch. He (and my mom, she’s a flight ticket wiz) got the tickets changed and he workout whatever needed to be done at work so he could drive with us. He drove my car, with 4 of the 6 kids, hauling that semi-registered cargo trailer, from Kansas to Alabama without complaining once. He then stayed for 2 days and helped Ben get the trailer unloaded, reloaded with storage stuff, and stored. And helped get the camper pushed into the garage after helping reorganize the garage (have I mentioned tomorrow it’s going to be 109 Fahrenheit tomorrow). AND still found time to play in the community pool, spend time on the floor building and rebuilding towers for Nathan to crash, hear all about the kids’ Zelda and Super Mario games, and I could go on.

I’m exhausted just writing about all the things my dad, Papa to the kids, got done while he was with us. We would be no where, absolutely no where, near where we are right now if he hadn’t come. I will always talk about this crazy move with our kids, because I want to share this story with them. I want them to remember the fun memories of being thrown across the pool and playing Minecraft Uno with all the rules (my dad likes to read all the rules before starting a game). But more importantly, I want them to remember what an incredibly selfless choice this was.

My dad did not have to come. We made it very clear that we did not expect him to rush to change all kinds of things to make this work. He did anyway. He could have griped about only going 60 miles an hour the whole first day (Ben tries to manage the number of times we have to stop for gas) (we got to go 65 on day two, hooray!). He didn’t. He could have said, “No, I think I’ll take the room to myself if that’s ok, it’s been a long day in the car with the kids and tomorrow will be just as long,” when we stopped overnight. He had 3 kids in his room with him, including the 4 year old who kicks in his sleep but adores his Papa. Every time I turned around, there he was, doing something sweet or kind or helpful. He was amazing.

While I know this story isn’t exactly what our Gospel is about, in a way it is. What I saw in my dad was someone who was putting Jesus first. He continually showed our whole family what it means to show up and be present in this moment. What crosses we asked him to carry, he carried. He so perfectly modeled that song from Mass, “Here I am, Lord, here I am. I come to do Your Will.” This is what I hope our family remembers from this past week.


For something a little more on topic for the Gospel reading, be sure to check out the YouTube video below.

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